I look in my Brighton home's bathroom mirror and see somebody staring out at me. I know that I am he, and he is I. But I pretend for a moment and wonder if he is just mimicking me, for my sake and for my sanity.

What is he thinking? What does he think about? What does he imagine? What are his dreams? What does his future hold? But, right now, I want to know where he has been.

I have seen his photos on my computer! His partner is in many of the 17000 photos that I have found. His partner looks just like mine! It is almost like a parallel world has been operating without me knowing it. Right under my very nose!

I read the articles that would eventually become blogs that I found on our computer. These two people had an amazing 14months. Even more wow, is that they went to 24 countries and travelled across 5 continents!

There are some really interesting stories there; Moradabad (or Moradaaweful as they call it), Tasmania, South America and all those exotic places in Africa and South East Asia! To name a few!

Some of the photos that they have on the computer are inspiring too! I shake my head in disbelief and wonder. These two people saw so so much. They experienced so much too! I am sure that the 160 blogs that are on their website are just the tip of the iceberg of all the stories that they may have!

When I peer into the mirror, I see him looking back at me from that same mirror and I can't help but think whether he believes he went on holiday or whether it was something else altogether?

Once Ing and I had managed to settle in our new home of Brighton, I came across his notes in the computer bag and read them in mounting fascination and enjoyment.

He seems to make out that what he and his partner did (actually, his fiancé. They got engaged in Peru at Machu Picchu. Congratulations to them!) was not a holiday and that they were definitely not tourists!

But they had a great time nevertheless. In his notes, he uses words like: savour, relish, devour, wallow in pleasure, ooze in a place's majesty, allow the wave of experience to wash over and tumble you along, land on the shores of adventure! The list goes on and writing them again makes me tingle with associated excitement!

Maybe there is something like this in me too! In us too! Yes, perhaps there is? Why shoud he get to do these things and I don't?

There are also some really big questions that he poses in his notes like: what is tourism? What is RESPONSIBLE (sic) tourism? Is what he and Ing doing a good or bad thing? What are aspirations and expectations? Who is the tourist to say that they are good or bad?

All the time, it is why? Why? Why? I am sure that he could talk about these issues with authority now that they have come back from such outstanding travels and adventures! I must admit to the fact that it seems they didn't just go out and "have a holiday".

Since I haven't really thought much about this stuff and the questions that he poses, I wonder if there is really any difference between the traveller and the tourist (Mirror Man's written notes; not mine) and between a holiday and a pilgrimage (his notes never say pilgrimage as such, but it is what he seems to want to say!)? Is it important? Mirror Man thinks so (I like the name I have given this guy in the mirror. Keeps him real!).

Tilting my head, narrowing my eyes and really getting those brain cells into gear has meant that I think I see his point a little and where he might be coming from.

Is he completely right? I suppose that it really depends upon your own perspective in life. If you have taken time to think about it, I suspect that you would be more of a traveller-on-a-pilgrim type of person rather than a tourist-on-holiday-type of person. Even if you don't know it yet!

In amongst all the notes, I came across this extract that I had a feeling he would want people to read, enjoy, mull over and perhaps, just perhaps, inspire somebody to go out and have an adventure!

"To be an explorer of any kind, you need to go and live the tale that you will come back and tell! You must go. You must come back. Adventure, challenge and triumph are all better in the telling! You have come back to tell your audience of a world of which they are part!

If you go on an exodus, you have left everybody behind. Your adventures, challenges and triumphs are yours alone. Who have you got to tell? To share with, but your travelling companions and the empty desert wind?

An explorer comes back and tells a story. An "exoduser" (sic) doesn't go back at all! Who knows what he got up to?"

When I came across that, I knew what Mirror Man was saying. He says that scale is not important. You can have adventures every day, anywhere, any time. You just need to be aware that you are having them. Just be aware and your every day world becomes far more than just boring everyday routine backdrop!

The Sir Ranulph Fiennes, Ray Mears and John Simpsons of the world do not have all the keys to the adventure kingdom! You hold those keys in your very hands! But did you know that?

Mirror Man and his fiancé might have ended an amazing trip somewhere in London's Heathrow Airport's T5, but the look on his face, the glint in his eye and the tilt in his head, all coupled with a stare of intensity coming out of the mirror, left me in no doubt that he and his fiancé would be having more adventures every day!

With an almost imperceptible nod of our heads in mutual recognition and respect, he left and I was looking back at myself in the mirror listening to Ing getting ready for work!